Because of the way camsites advertise, they often mislead the customer into thinking it’s some kind of dating site instead of pay to play. I understand that this is a way to get traffic, but it can be frustrating for both cam models and customers. One of the biggest frustrations is hearing someone say: “Why should I pay you? Why should I pay you when I can watch porn for free? Why should I pay you, you should Skype with me for free.” Well, I’m going to address these each individually.
Why should I pay you?
Depends. Maybe you should or maybe you shouldn’t. There are reasons why you would want to pay a sex worker in general and specific reasons why you would want to pay a camgirl. I will be discussing both.
The biggest factor in determining this is opportunity cost. What is opportunity cost? For those of you who are not familiar with economics, opportunity cost is what you are losing by taking one option instead of the other. In the adult entertainment industry, the main cost for customers to consider is time, specifically what their time is worth.
A classic example is one is the typical “business man” customer of an escort – and more recently, camgirls. For those not in the hobby, it’s often surprising for others to find out that a good looking, successful man would chose to pay for the time of an attractive lady, perhaps one he could even date in real life.
Well, in order to find that girl, the business man would have to:
- Spend hours looking for her. Bars, dating sites, etc.
- Seduce her successfully, meaning there is a mutual attraction.
- Spending hours going out to dinners/bars and potentially hundreds in expenses.
Time needed: Hours to weeks, depending.
- Call a phone number/hop on a website.
- Choose his provider.
Time needed: 15 minutes to an hour.
Let’s say this business man is the owner of his own company, or a self employed. We can give his time a monetary value quite easily. For simplicity’s sake we’ll do $100/hour. Let us also say that it costs $300/hour for the escort or camgirls time (before the site’s cut). It becomes very clear that anything over 3 hours is a waste of the business man’s resources when he could be working instead to pay for services vs. pursuing what at first glance seems “free.” It is not free, as we now understand the real cost of chasing someone around in hopes that they like us.
Even if we ignore the fact that the business man could make more money in the time he would spend attempting to have sex or satisfy his fetish (say he doesn’t work weekends) he is still spending potentially hundreds of dollars and time at bars and fancy dinners, when he may have other hobbies or interests he wishes to spend his time on. He just wants what he wants, and then gets back to everyday life.
Now, that was an instance of where it makes sense for man to pay for adult services. Let’s look at a different scenario. You are a waiter who makes ~$20/hour including tips. It would take the waiter a lot of time to save up $300. Not only that, but he has a finite amount of time in which he can make money. He can only work 20/hrs week, his boss says. There is no way for him to get more hours. There is no way he can make more. It makes more sense for him to attempt to seduce a civilian than pay a sex worker, most of the time.
Overall, one must figure out what their time is worth and make rational economic decisions accordingly. Yeah, this can be hard when all the blood is in your little head instead of the big one – but try your best.
Why should I pay you when I can watch porn for free?
Porn is free, and it’s plentiful. Correct.
Sex workers are offering you real interaction. We are offering you our personalities, our experience, our professionalism. We are also offering you a gift, something we can never get back. We are giving you our time. Not only is our time (and yours) the most important thing in the world, but as we discussed in previous scenarios, it is not free. We are spending time with you when we could be spending time with our families. We are spending time with you when we could be working on our schoolwork. We are spending time with you while we could be sleeping. We are spending time with you when we could be making money doing something else or being with other customers.
Therefore if you want to watch porn, go for it. But what most take for granted is those performers, producers, and editors that made that film are done now, they spent a day filming and that’s it – now you watch over and over again for a one time investment. Live interaction is a completely different than pre-recorded content.
Time is money. Sex workers are a luxury on for those who can afford it.
Why should I pay you? You should Skype with me for free.
Honestly I laugh at loud at this crap. Why would I Skype with you for free when there are plenty who pay? If you think that I will because you’re hot/have a big dick/whatever – think again. I have many hot customers – model hot, to the point I get flustered – hot. I also have many who I genuinely enjoy their company and would consider to be friends, and they still pay because they respect my time. What can I say, I love my job :).
Also, once you do this long enough looks become less and less important. You realize that there are so many good looking people/big dicks in the world, a dime a dozen. The novelty of that initial attraction wears off. Not that looks aren’t important, but they aren’t the sole reason for becoming involved with someone anymore. Most of us become pickier, because we realize we can.
Why should I pay a camgirl? I can get an escort for the same price.
This entertains me too. I’m expensive for a camgirl (currently
$9/min $15/min for exclusive on my main site) and have no problems getting men to pay me, and and I have regulars with long shows. I’m actually more expensive than some escorts. So obviously not all want to see a physical escort/domina if I’m still here!
A few reasons for this:
- Some men with fetishes are shy, and are too scared to see a pro domme.
- If a man is married and/or has a family with children, he can’t get away.
- STD risk.
- Law enforcement.
This is all only if your goal is strictly to get off. Obviously seeing a sex worker doesn’t replace having a real relationship (hopefully). If looking for a meaningful connection, of course it’s worth it to spend tons of time looking for someone special. But for those who don’t “get it” I hope this has provided a new perspective for you to consider, and not be so quick to judge those that pay for sexual services.