It has come to my attention that a lot of newbies to the fetish world, and specifically cuckolding don’t seem to understand the fascination – or shall I say obsession, with black men having sex with white women and the concept of big black cock. It is so prevalent in porn – the scene of the young blonde wife with the big black bull, so rampant to the point almost where it’s overdone. And a lot want to know… why?
There are certainly cuckolds that don’t want to see their partner with a black male, or are completely indifferent to it. Those who aren’t may wonder what is it exactly that makes all these people so obsessed with “BBC”? There’s been conflicting research on whether or not black males actually have larger penises, or if it’s just something that’s been perpetuated for so long it’s merely accepted as fact – that’s part of it, but doesn’t tell the whole story.
Let’s face it, it’s not just about dick size. Racism still exists, and a lot of it is so deeply ingrained in American culture that the stereotyping almost becomes unconscious. The idea of a “poor innocent white woman” getting plowed by a overbearing black bull is still very taboo. Anyone who thinks racism no longer exists is incredibly naïve. Even both cuckolds and bulls alike have been known to enjoy using the n-word during play at times. So it’s not just Caucasians who enjoy the taboo, it’s black bulls too. And it just so happens that the biggest taboos can be the biggest turn-ons.
Additionally, one of the factors that often gets overlooked in this niche is the aspect of competition. As a society we have developed in a way that men no longer compete for women the way they used to. We can’t overlook our own programming. Men are trained to hunt, to chase. They have it too easy now. Walk in a bar, buy a drink, get laid. Or even worse – go on a dating or cam site and literally pick from a lineup of girls! This is not natural. It undermines the primal instincts that all men have, they crave it.
When a man becomes married or is in a long term committed relationship, there is no more chase (not that there was much to begin with most likely). They know their significant other is not going anywhere. What’s left? What is there to work towards? The funny thing is, a lot men will tell you all day long they want to get something the easiest way, the path of least resistance – but that is 100% not true. Whether or not they admit it to themselves, they love the competition, the thrill of the chase. Getting the prize is unsatisfactory otherwise. If someone just handed you a trophy would it mean anything to you? Of course not.
Now, what does this have to do with “big black cock”? The answer is for many, black men are seen to provide the biggest source of this competition. It’s easy for a white man to compete with another white man sexually, you’re essentially the same – where it counts anyway. But a white cuckold husband can never compete with a “mandingo”. He will never be black. It doesn’t matter what he does, if a woman likes black men he doesn’t stand a chance and there’s no changing that.
Overall, just like everything in kink reasons vary. Yours aren’t the same as mine. Even if we like the same thing we may have dramatically different motivations and experiences – that’s what makes life great, isn’t it? 🙂