This post is mainly directed at camgirls, however customers might also find it an interesting read.
As I’ve been doing more Skype shows I’ve had the pleasure of speaking to customers directly, many of which I acquired through my own marketing efforts. Because of this it has come to my attention that there is a serious issue when it comes to how we interact with our customers. Many men that I speak to are surprised that I’m actually nice to them… really. Why would they be surprised? It’s not just because I do a lot of fetish and femdom, because if anything vanilla guys tell me this more.
Why are they so astounded that I’m nice? Because the majority of you are not. Now, I don’t blame you. We have to deal with a lot everyday that civilians just don’t have to put up with. Beggars, rudeness, people seeing how much they can get for free just for fun (why people do this I don’t know) constant attempts at manipulation, you name it. Yeah, I get it – it sucks. But do you know what sucks more? Approaching a sex worker with credit card in hand and a hard on, ready to really relax and enjoy some quality time with a lovely lady – only to get barked at and “fuck you pay me.” Maybe if you are into findom this is the appropriate response, but for the majority of customers this is not what they want to hear to get turned on.
There is a fine balance between asserting appropriate professional boundaries and being a total bitch because of a minority of people you’ve had negative experiences with. The vast majority of customers are not in this minority. I purposely choose to only interact with those who are polite, respectful gentlemen. I give a warning if they are not: shape up or you’re out. I will say this is part of the reason why I’m not submissive on cam. I’m actually a switch in my personal life, but online so many “dommes” are really just assholes and it isn’t worth my time to distinguish between the two. But… I digress.
You can still do femdom and have good customer service, you can still be submissive and not put up with crap. It is not limited to your niche. Remember that the person on the other end is just that, a person. They are a living, breathing, human being with thoughts and feelings. Many struggle with the idea of pay to play to begin with that to even approach someone is a difficult task. And on top of that you are rude to them? Stop it. Just stop it right now. Or don’t, your customers will come to me and be happy they did 🙂 (Just kidding… kind of).
It won’t always be easy. God knows I’m far from perfect. But I promise you it will be worth it. I know that the idea of giving some of your precious time to someone who might not spend money is not ideal, but you have to remember that you are a business providing a service. Vanilla businesses interact with their potential customers all the time, and so should you. You will learn soon enough how to spot a paying customer vs. someone trying to waste your time. It’s also not worth trying to “get back at” someone for freeloading or trying to scam you. Just ignore/block and move on.
You only have so much energy in a day. Spend it on those who earn it or have the potential to. It takes a lot more effort to be mean to someone then to be nice to them. It also ruins your mood so you can’t put on your best performance for those who deserve it.
Try it… I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised at the results.